Saturday, August 28, 2010

Stop Trying To Impress Other People

For the past several months I have been on a mission to change some habits, change some feelings, change some situations, that I didn't like. I came across an article about, (of all things), money. I thought it was interesting and thought I'd pass it on to you.

"Stop Trying To Impress Other People"

Here are six ways to break through that situation.

1. Take the lead. Be a trendsetter within your group. Back away from the expenses and activities that revolve mostly around impressing other people. Make suggestions for activities that don’t revolve around showing off.

2. Try new activities. You can do this either with your circle of friends or on your own, but try out new things that you might never have considered before. Think of things that seemed fun to you but you never got involved with because others around you decried them – and you were trying hard to impress them by agreeing.

3. Guide the conversation. If the conversation turns to bland compliments of each other and insults of people outside your group, steer the conversation away from it. Focus on being positive towards everyone, particularly in non-material areas. Pick areas you’re passionate about (don’t be a one trick pony – figure out several) and guide the conversation there instead.

4. Use your compliments wisely. Offer compliments on jobs well done, but don’t bother with big compliments on new gadgets or new clothing or a shiny new car. It’ll become clear that what you value are people who take charge of their life, not people who fritter away their money trying to impress others.

5. Share personal growth oriented thoughts. Instead of talking about popular culture and “stuff” all the time, instead mix in some thoughts on personal growth. Talk about ways you’re trimming your spending in positive ways. Talk about your big aspirations and dreams. Encourage others to share theirs as well. It also helps to read good materials in these areas so that you have more food for your own thought and more ideas to share.

6. Explore new relationships. If your circle of friends is still focused too heavily on impressing others and on material gains, spend some time exploring new relationships. Call up people you’ve thought of as interesting but simply wouldn’t fit in your old group and see what they’re up to. Connect with people at the new activities you’re trying.

In short, don’t play socially by the tired old rules that revolve around needing to impress people. Instead, spend your time on things that bring real value to you – and give real value to others.

Scripture verses:
"Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe.” Proverbs 29:25
"Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves." Philippians 2:3

Gospel Approval
(it’s so much better!)

Here are a few gospel aphorisms that might be helpful to memorize when you are tempted to prove yourself to others, yourself, or God.

We don’t have to impress [God] because Jesus impressed him for us.
We don’t have to perfect [Ourselves] because imperfect people cling to a perfect Christ.
We don’t’ have to seek approval from [Others] because are approved by grace in Christ.



Simple repetitive tasks require a time frame of approximately 21 days to condition. Here is a familiar example: When you walk into your bedroom you "automatically" reach for the light switch on the left side as you enter. Then you move to a new home where the light switch is located on the right side as you enter. You will find that it will take you about 21 days to stop reaching for that light switch on the left side. (that is not there!). You will also find this 21 day "benchmark" to be the time your new house will start feeling "like home".


  1. A wonderful Sunday post. Lots to think about!

  2. Great post! Thanks so much for sharing.

  3. This was really great! We all tend to fall into the same-old-same-old, don't we? I love the part about concentrating on what is truly worth complimenting.

  4. Christine,
    I just love these thought words... so much good stuff to chew on! I love how when God grows us, he doesn't normally choose to do that in isolation. that by one person's growth.. other are touched and in turn grow... and on and on. Thank you for sharing your wisdom of growth with us!
    God Bless!
    Dee Dee

  5. Great post, Christine. While I'm genuinely happy for my friends when they succeed in life and in their pursuits (and I make a point of sharing in their happiness), it's fairly easy to see when someone is flaunting, and that's never pretty.

  6. Great post. Love you and miss you....hope to see you very soon.


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